What is an Intuitive Life Coach?

Attempting to define my role as an Intuitive Life Coach for my new website has been quite an interesting process for me. Up until recently I have simply let others define their experience of the session through word of mouth, and that has worked out well up until now. The challenge with letting others define my role in their life is it allows room for confusion and disappointment in the expectations that one might have regarding their session with me.

So before I go into what I actually do now, I would first like to share with you my evolutionary process that I have traveled thus far.

My first exposure to intuition was when I was 9 years old. My grandmother would read cards for the neighborhood women. I was so fascinated by this that I asked her to teach me how to do that too. She told me that I was not old enough to understand, and that she would teach me when I got a bit older.

That wonderful time came when I was 12 years old. She pulled out her cards that had writing all over them, had me shuffle, then showed me how to lay them out. I listened to her every word as she wove a beautiful story about me. I was entranced and excited that she could say and know so much from the cards. She believed in 100% fate, and that we could know someone's fate through the cards. I followed that path and belief for quite some time.

My first eye opener to how free will can work in a persons life came when I was in my early 20's. I gave a reading to this gentleman whose wife had just left him. I "received" the same information that apparently four other readers received. It felt quite clear that she would come back into his life. A year later when he called to tell me she had not, I was quite devastated that I had received the wrong information. I was ready to quit doing this work until this same gentleman called me to tell me that he wanted to thank me for his reading because it had helped him gain some inner strength that he did not have previously.

I was so confused by this experience that I went into deep prayer and asked God for some clarity. I also asked about fate versus free will, and what was it all about. Fortunately through some very clear dreams, I was able to understand it a little better. I am still in an evolving relationship with that question still to this day.

Fortunately I did feel a strong sense to continue doing the work that I was doing at that time. I was quite busy doing sessions throughout the U.S.with a three month waiting list. But deep inside I was still unsettled about the work I was doing. I wanted to serve God in a clear and accurate way, but was a bit confused about how to communicate fate versus free will in a person's reading. I felt that I was missing something really important.

One day before heading for a trip to California, I asked to be shown what I was missing. Little did I know that my life would change from that question. I was 26 years old.

When I got to California, my sponsor was so excited about these books that she was reading. She suggested that I read them too. I not only read them, they became alive inside of me. Every word had an impact on me in ways that I could not describe.

When I came back from that trip, I had realized that I really didn't know anything, and I did not want to do "psychic" readings anymore. I felt that I was supporting victim thinking with the readings. So I finished out my three month waiting list, and then quit. I never thought I would ever return again.

Two years later, old clients starting calling me again. I asked the divine what was I suppose to do. I received to tell people that I can give them a new kind of session, I did not know what to call it or how much I would charge. And if they were interested,, then I was open. They said yes, and my career took on a whole new direction.

It was a year before I came up with the title of Intuitive Counselor. I found myself giving less predictions, and helping others to see their deeper and true nature so that they could stand into that truth. My belief went from fate and waiting for the future to unfold to a combination of fate and free will. I realized that we create our future based on our consciousness in the now. And if we are aware of our inner beliefs that are preventing us from our true destiny, then we could heal , and allow God's grace to come into our life.That our negativity can prevent God's grace from coming in, and that we can transcend our Karma if we were aware of it.

This became an exciting new direction for me because we are all participating together in transformation. And it has and continues to be so wonderful to watch this transformation take place.

Up until last year I called myself an Intuitive Counselor. But as God has directed my career and life so well up to this point, the new added focus of life coach came from one of my clients.

A few years ago one of my clients of 15 years asked me if I could help coach her through some transformational things in her life. I was open to the opportunity, and she helped guide me to guide her. The experience was truly a blessing.

The coaching element focuses more on taking action towards change. More suggestions and tools are offered in the session. Some clients specifically get a series of coaching sessions with a desired goal in my. As an Intuitive Life Coach I have been fortunate to offer intuitive mediation sessions with couples,siblings, couples, and business partners, find solutions to challenges that they might be having.

My work continues to evolve and grow as I continue to evolve and grow, and I feel quite blessed to be in this work.

In a busy, active life, make time daily to cultivate peace, stillness of mind

Originally posted in Asheville Daily Planet 08 July 2008

This morning I woke up with clarity and peace about writing on clarity and peace. All morning, I was enjoying a wonderful clarity. I went through work with that clarity — and continued with this wonderful peace of mind.

I was going to write about the couple on the beach spending hours in quietude while looking for seashells in one spot, and how nature is a wonderful gift in connecting us to our inner stillness. I was also going to write about how meditation, music, prayer, and dance are also some of the ways to clear out our head and experience an inner peace.

But as soon as I sat at the computer to write the headline about the importance of doing the things in our life to cultivate a greater clarity, my son called from Iraq. Within minutes of our conversation, the peace and clarity that I was feeling all morning evaporated, and was quickly replaced with frustration, sorrow and anger.

My son told me that he would not be able to sleep tonight because he will be on suicide watch. One of his military colleagues is suicidal — and instead of letting him come back home and getting the care he really needs, they are watching him 24/7.

I found myself quite angry that this young man was not getting the attention that he needed, and sad and angry about the whole situation.

After I hung up with my son, I then wondered how could I possibly write about peace and stillness when my mind was far from still at that moment.

I walked away from writing and worked at getting my mind back to the clarity that I was feeling earlier. After all, this column is about “finding peace and stillness in a busy and active life.”

After some time with quiet, movement, and deep breathing, I was able to get to a better place.

The difference between my rattled mind and my clearer mind are like night and day. I find that when I am in an inner clear space, I am less reactive, and more compassionate, even with the situation that my son is going through.

Critias of Athens (c. 460-403 B.C.) said, “If you will discipline yourself to make your mind self-sufficient, you will thereby be least vulnerable to injury from the outside.”

I see that when my mind is not “disciplined” in a clear and quiet way, it is as if I have wild horses running around in my head, and those wild horses of worry and confusion need to be reigned in. The Upanishads are ancient writings from 600 BC, and one of them states, “When you lack understanding and are unable to control your mind, your senses do not obey you, just as unruly horses do not obey a charioteer.”

I know for me it is critical that I give myself the quiet time to clear out my head. When I don’t give it a priority in my day, I find that I am more unsettled with the rest of my day, and am not as effective or efficient in all of my activities. It takes more energy to reign in the worry and confusion than it takes to take some time in my morning to cultivate a greater clarity.

A lot of people whom I have talked with about the importance of taking inner time on a daily basis have given me many reasons why they can not spare even a few minutes of their day to do that. Taking inner time and centering can really happen with just a few minutes of quiet and some deep breathing, and if you add stretching or movement with that, then your whole being is quite happy.

Unsettling situations happen a lot in our lives, but if we are able to bring our self into a clear center, we are not as controlled or affected by those situation, as Critias shared thousands of years ago.

I believe that it is important to not be a prisoner of something or someone else, and that includes being a prisoner of our own minds. I know I have much to do in regard to this, but I believe cultivating a clearer mind is an ongoing process, not something to “arrive at” overnight.

May we all continue to cultivate a greater stillness and clarity of mind through our very busy and active lives, so that we can no longer be bound by the struggles and stress of our everyday life.

Let’s appreciate the kindness that is around each of us every day

This is a reprint from the Asheville Daily Planet
Originally written on 04 March 2008

Do we take kindness for granted? It seems that kindness does not get the recognition that it deserves — that is, until we experience an unkind action from someone else, and then we realize that they were not being kind.

With all the pain and suffering that is afflicting our world, it sometimes is difficult to see the small acts of kindness that we might encounter from day to day. In fact, the kind acts that we experience might seem all too small compared to the looming problems that are happening everywhere. And because the suffering seems so much larger than the gentle but powerful acts of kindness, they oftentimes get taken for granted or put into the “that’s nice” category.

But what if we did not have these kindnesses in our life? What would it be like living in the world without kindness?
It would be a world in which everyone is out for himself or herself. And yes, we can certainly see pockets of that in many situations and places; but overall, kindness is still very strong in the world today. Kindness is not just in small pockets here and there, it can be seen everywhere. Kindnesses are the acts that we all do for someone else just to be nice, without any gain or any benefit.

This came up for me the other day when I was merging onto the highway. The car that was in the lane that I was merging into was apparently not noticing the other lane that was open and available for it to move over into so that I could gracefully enter. Instead, I almost had to stop my car and wait for it to move on.

After this incident, I thought about all of the wonderful and kind people whom I come in contact with on a daily basis — not only the kind drivers who move over to let someone on the highway, but the kind people I encounter in all the public places that I go to, and the kindness that I experience from family, friends and clients.

Probably most of us can say that we experience a lot of kindness in our life. Kindness is one of those few virtues that every religion agrees upon. The Dalai Lama values kindness to such a large degree that he says, “This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”

If kindness became the focus, and not religious or political differences, we could begin to find solutions to the many problems that we do have in the world. Many of these problems stem from desire for personal gain, which is the opposite of kindness.

You might think that what I have said sounds naive because some believe that we are all out for our own personal gain. Maybe so — but we can nevertheless live life from a place of consideration of others, while still taking care of ourselves.
I also believe that the more kind that we are in life, the more that will affect and motivate others in kindness. I experience this on a small level when I am kind to someone who had no interest in being kind first, but will respond back with kindness.

We should never underestimate the power of kindness.

I am not just talking about “acting” kind; I am talking about living from kindness. When we live in kindness, we tend to see the bigger picture of the outcome of our decisions, and not from the point of view of what we can gain in our decision.

Today is a good day to acknowledge the kindness that is everywhere around us in the world. We can grow kindness to such a large degree that it becomes blatantly obvious when we are not acting from kindness.

So let’s appreciate it, and live more from that kind place, so that those of us who still believe in the power of kindness do not have to take our “rose-colored glasses” off.

overcoming hard times through honest appreciations

Many of us have grown up with painful stories and memories that at times can feel debilitating. We have attempted to heal the painful wounds that are buried deep within our being through various means. We have tried therapy, healing, self help books, forgiveness, prayer, and the many other means available that offer healing,only to find ourselves still feeling the affects of deep wounds from times past.

My childhood was not an easy one. I choose not to put a lot of energy into telling that "story" at this time, but I can say that experienced abandonment and abuse from every angle. By the time I was 20 years old, my life had become a mess that seemed unrepairable. I felt hopeless and all alone. There was not a solution in my conscious mind that I could have imagined would work for me.
Fortunately for me my soul had a greater plan for me.

At 20 years old I went into a rehab for seven long months. I acquired some life tools that helped inspire me to work on my life in ways that I could not have done before. I worked hard to get out of the "world" that I been living. A world of self pity, victim, and lacking in feelings of worth. I knew That I deserved a better life, but up until then, had no clue on how to attain it.

Not only did I work hard on healing my emotional self, but I also asked my "guidance", my soul a lot of questions. I wanted to know the truth of life! I wanted to know whether the Divine existed, and what was it. I asked from the depth of my being, and through the deep heart felt questions came some incredible and profound answers.

It has now been over 27 years since that dark period in my life, and I am truly grateful to not only be alive, but to feel alive in ways that I could not have imagined. Although I have used many "tools" to get where I am today, the greatest and easiest tool I have found is the tool of using gratitude in our daily life.

When we feel like victims of our past and that life has dealt us a raw deal, that feeling dominates our whole being. This does not allow for new energy and new thinking to come in. Our feeling of being a victim becomes the filter in how we view the world. We see the world as a victim, we radiate that out, and attract that in.

All the positive thinking in the world will not change that world view. But changing our feelings in our heart will do wonders.
When we look at our life from a new perspective and really appreciate the good that is there, our hearts get lifted to a higher place. I know there are times that feel challenged to find the blessings. But we can always find at least one. Even if that one is having the gift of sight, sound, touch, or smell.

By cultivating a greater appreciation for our life, the feeling of victim and pain becomes "watered" down from the feelings of appreciation and gratitude. This watering down allows for the new feelings of gratitude and appreciation to become the dominant theme with us, which that radiates out a whole new energy out to the world.

The important key here is to be honest with our appreciations.When we find an appreciation that can resonate with a real part of ourself,then it truly does affect the chemical "energetic" nature of our being.

I know for me it is difficult to stay in gratitude all the time. There are times that life feels really hard, and I want to hide from the world. I find that being truly honest with myself about how I feel,turning it over to a higher power, while looking at what I appreciate in my life helps me shift faster than anything.

I think there is a misguided belief in the alternative healing community that admitting that we are feeling bad somehow will manifest as negative in our life. The truth is that if we are feeling bad, then pretending that we are happy just gives more energy to the unhappy feelings to act out in subtle unconscious ways.

We are going to have struggles in life, and we are going to have wonder in life. That just is the way it is for most people. I have not met anyone in life that has not suffered, but I have met a lot of people in life who feel ripped off because they have suffered.That feeling of being ripped off for suffering actually causes more suffering and creates a whirlpool of suffering.

Accepting that suffering happens, grieve, turn it over, and appreciating the good, has worked for many people in overcoming deep rooted pain and suffering, and has helped many come to a greater and more loving space in life.

Thank you for reading my blog, and if you have any questions, feel free to email me and ask.
Many Blessings to you!

Springtime awakenings

Originally posted on my website 17 March 09

For many of us, winter is a time of being in our "in
breath", it is a time of reflection, and of being. I know
for many, this winter has been particularly challenging
with all the changes with our Country as well.
Fortunately at the end of every winter, we open to the
blossoming of life. Spring arrives with the sweet
sounds of nature calling to us, asking us to open to a
new sense of renewal. Calling our souls to awaken and
express itself through our personality in all areas of
our life.

This is our time to remember, to remember who we
really are. We are more than personalities that we
have been trained to believe.
We are a beautiful and precious soul that is similar to
a flower that is trying to come through the hard
ground. The flower tries to burst forth, and desires and
longs to come into full bloom, but due to harsh
conditions, cannot fully stand it its true beauty and
present itself as the magnificent flower that it truly is.
We can say that life is so harsh and prevents us from
really being the magnificent being that we are or we
might be waiting for someone else to recognize our
beauty, and help us (water) to become the true beauty
of who we are.

But the real truth for the flowers that have come into
full bloom and continues to shine forth the beauty of
true nature is that no matter where they are in
geographies, they have had to endure harsh weather
conditions to become the strong and radiant plant that
it is. Some flowers have endured more harsh
conditions than others, but all have experienced
changes. It is the flowers that continue onward and
upward toward the sunshine, the light, that are
strengthened through the harsh and changing times.

They are the flowers that radiant such a profound
presence and beauty where words cannot describe.
How are we in our personal lives? Are we the striving
and growing flowers that might be weathering some
harsh conditions, but we continue to reach for the
sunshine? Or are we letting the hard ground hold us
down? Are we expecting someone to come along and
yank our pedals open so that we may feel more
abundant; beautiful; or loved, or are we waiting and
moving ever so patiently towards the light?

We all have choices in our life no matter how difficult
life can be, and it is really easy to forget the true
nature of our being. One way to stay diligent on
remembering is through a consistent practice that
brings you into the feeling of your true inner beauty.
There are so many practices that have worked for so
many. The key is to find one that works for you, and to
stick with it. The practice is like water for the plant
that is trying to move through the hard ground. The
practice softens the earth, and allows the flower to
come forth.

Some of the practices that I have seen work for me or
for others are; meditation, prayer, light work, healing
energy, dance and movement, journaling, positive
music, affirmations, and reading positive and uplifting
material.

I have seen some do too many of these at once and
lose interest and focus right away. The idea is to
weave a couple of these into our daily life so that they
become a consistent nurturing force that helps to
soften our habitual fear or negativity.

As I have written in previous sharings, doing Light
work every day for 25 years has been one of the major
practices that I have used, and I have experienced
many miracles with it. I have also added every one of
the other suggestions at one time or another. The idea
is to keep the positive "water" coming into our being
so that we may blossom into the beautiful and
profound souls that we really are.

May your Spring Time be a time of beautiful growth,
and rising into full bloom.

Your Intuition through changing times

Originally posted on my website 19 Jan 09

This week is a very special week. Today is Martin Luther King
Jr. day and tomorrow is the inauguration of Barrack Obama,
the first black president of the United States, and an
extraordinary human being.
I certainly do feel that these times are filled with a need for
change. If we continue the direction that our country is going,
we will experience suffering that is beyond understanding, and
suffering that could have been prevented.
How wonderful it is that we now have the change happening
that is necessary to raise our financial, emotional, mental, and
spiritual consciousness up.
This is not just because Barack Obama has been elected. He
was elected because his innovated thinking, brilliant mind,
emotional consciousness, and commitment to working with all
people are the qualities that we ourselves have cultivated
more of in our own nature.
It is my belief that leaders and representatives are a reflection
of what the majority is holding in their consciousness,
consciously or unconsciously.
Due to the prayers, deeper levels of compassion, personal
growth, and just plain old-fashioned kind-heartedness, we as a
group have been able to bring in those leaders that are looking
a little deeper and wider in their range; and looking out for
group interests more than their personal interests.
These times can feel more challenging than many have
experienced in past times. Our life style on this planet has
become out of balance, and the results of that are global
warming, economic struggles, and more situations that do not
look like consciousness raising situations.
Change needs to happen in order to bring balance to our global
community. Change can be exciting ,and challenging, or both,
depending on how flexible we really are.
It is important for us to know that when we are out of balance,
suffering happens. When we mistreat anything long enough;
whether it is our heath, a relationship, a job, or anything else,
the result is almost always unpleasant. However, when we see
that we have mistreated something, and work towards
balance and greater health of the situation, the result can
almost always be more positive. This can be said for these
times.
For me "inner guidance" has been a tremendously asset in
helping me through so many times that I have been out of
balance in or off track. No matter whether you believe that it is
God, guides, angels, higher self, soul, or gut feelings, guiding
you; we all have intuition.
The more that we tap into our own intuition, the more likely
these changing times will be easier and more directed for us.
One common way to access your intuition is asking, and
expecting an answer.
I know this might seem simple or abstract for some of you, but
doing it is really the only way that your logical mind can
understand it. Intuition is using the "illogical" mind to come up
with a "knowing" that you will not get through the reasoning
mind.
Often time's people ask for guidance, and feel frustrated that
they are not getting a clear answer. It is the expecting part
that is important. When we expect an answer back, then we
will get it. It might not be as clear as a conversation would be
from someone, it might be a gut feeling or inkling; maybe a
dream gives some clarity; a friend says the right thing that
feels right; or perhaps a book that you are reading gives you a
sense of clarity. There are so many ways to receive intuitive
guidance. Being attached to receiving a certain way or desiring
a certain outcome can hinder the "flow" of information that
wants to come through.
If this is the case, don't give up, and keep asking. Sometimes
the wording of the question itself can show you how clear you
are on the question. Asking a clear question can be extremely
helpful to receiving a clear answer. If the question is vague
and general, the answer might come vague and general, and
we might miss it because we are wanted more specific
guidance.
Or sometimes our attachment to how we receive or what we
receive can get in the way. This is common for all of us no
matter how long we have been working with our intuition. We
are human, and we all have an idea on what we want in our
life. We cannot get rid of that. But we can work towards being
more flexible within our self so that we are open to receiving
what is important for our well-being.
I have found that there have been times that I have asked the
same question many nights in a row before getting clear
enough information to act upon.
The next key is to act upon the guidance that you have
received. When we act upon the guidance, our trust becomes
greater; thereby opening the inner doors for more, and for
clearer information to come in. The more that we experience
the value and importance of intuition in our life, especially
through changing times, the more we will become automatic
with receiving guidance in our life. This can only bring us to a
more enriched and fulfilling life. This does not mean always
happy. To expect to be happy all the time, can be an
imbalance. We can expect to feel an inner connection that
gives us a peace through all life's experiences.

Making a difference by standing and shining the LIGHT!

originally posted on my website 03 June 08

In the 25 years since I learned about doing "light work", I
have hardly missed a day in my morning "light work"
routine.I have seen so many wonderful things happen due to the
light work that I wanted to share it with you. First I will
share my story around doing light work, then talk about how it
works and how to do "light work".

26 years ago I went through a life changing and
transformative experience after I hit a very long and rocky
period in my life. This transformation led me to questioning
everything. I wanted to know whether God existed, and if
so, I wanted God to tell me. Well the experience that I had
after a year of asking continuously was quite profound and
changed me forever.

After that experience, I opened myself up to learning from
so many different people. A very special "teacher" came
into my life, and told me that he saw that I had lived a
childhood with a lot of pain because it was in my energy field. He
suggested doing "lightwork" to clear it out.
I wanted so badly to be a clear person, and to be free
from the pain and suffering that I had experienced, that I was
quite devoted to giving this lightwork a try. He suggested
that I say, "I am surrounded in light and only light can be
with me and only light can be near me."
Of course I was so determined to make my life and
connection to the divine become so clear that I said this
about 10 times a day.

It was not until three months later that I noticed a difference.
I remember walking into a grocery store and being pulled into an unconscious state with the music. So I surrounded myself in light, and right away I
noticed clarity of my mind that had not been there minutes before.
I was quite excited and surprised because up to this point I was only doing it as an experiment.
My then husband and I decided to experiment with other people. One day when we were seated at a food court in a mall, we saw a family of four sitting about four tables
away.The two children were about four and two years old. As we were imagining the family in light, the four year old looked right at as and pointed to his little sister. We noticed that she was getting antsy. So we started focusing the light onto
her,he then looked again, smiled, and turned away. We were
quite convinced at his response that we began to believe
that there was something to doing lightwork.

I can go on with the amazing miracles that I have seen
over the past 25 years of doing lightwork but they are now too
numerous to list. The stories and blessings from standing
in the light and doing lightwork are endless. Lightwork has
become a part of my morning "inner" time. I not only
surround family, friends, clients, and pets in light, but I
also surround the world, politicians, environment, and all that I
can add into the list.

You might ask how imagining light around something or
someone really works? Light is energy, and white light is
the highest energy there is.
Science has shown us that ultimately everything is made of energy, and that it is vibrating at different frequencies.
That is why animals can sense fear and anger from people. We can do that too, but are not aware of it.
Fear and anger have a low vibratory rate, whereas love and contentment have a higher frequency.

Sometimes life gets us so bogged down that our personal
frequency is a lot lower than we realty want it to be. By
surrounding our selves or others in white light , we in
essence are putting a higher vibratory rate around us ,
and this purifies the energy to higher rate.

I am sure this sounds too simplistic, but what do you
have to lose by giving it a try. What is really important here is not
to try it once and give up because the results weren't
immediate. Your vibratory rate is radiating from years of
many different emotions. Surrounding yourself in light at
least once daily is helping to reinforce a more loving and
conscious vibration, and this sometimes takes time to do.
When I was first told how to do this lightwork, I was told
to see myself in a bubble of white light. I had a hard time
visualizing at that time so he suggested that I just say
that I am surrounded in light and only light can be with me, and
only light can come near me. After a long while I started
to visualize it, and then years later, I started to feel it. But I
was a little dense due to the lifestyle that I chose before
my transformation.

I believe that we are in some changing and difficult times.
I also believe that the more light that we shine into the
world,the greater the chances of experiencing that reality. I
hope that you too see the importance of doing "lightwork" too.
And if you have another way of doing that, then how wonderful!
There are so many ways to heal, and to heal a
planet. The clue is that we are all doing something to
make a difference for the good of humanity.

May your light shine ever so brightly each and every day!

Nurturing our priorities in life with the importance they hold

Origionally posted on my website 23 Feb 08
If I asked you to take a minute and think about the most
important thing in your life, what would that be? Would it be
a loved one, children, a goal, a value, your intellect, or maybe
even your spirituality? We all have something or someone in
our life that is the most important treasure for us. It is the
most important because it has touched our hearts and minds
in ways that no other treasure has. When you think of your
most treasured, do you feel happy and grateful that it is in
your life? Is it so important for you that if it were not in your
life, you would definitely feel the loss of it in such a great
way?
The next question that I would like to ask you is; are you
treating your most important thing/person as if it is the most
important treasure in your life? Most often the answer to this
question is no. There seem to be a lot of reasons why we do
not treat our treasure value this way, but most of the
excuses do not seem to matter at the end of someone's life
or if they were to lose the treasured value.
I often hear others say that they will spend more time with
their most valued person after they make more money or
when they have more time in their life. Recently I gave a
session to a couple that has been married 25 years. They are
talking about divorce because they clearly do not value each
other. They have been staying together because they value
their children as the most treasured, and they are so
miserable in their life that they are doing all that they can do
in order to avoid being around each other, which means they
are not around the kids much either. Their kids are not
feeling as though they are the most valued in either of their
parents' lives.
When we put time in to nurture those people or values that
we treasure, then the rewards of the experience with them
out weigh anything else that would need to take up our time.
Yes, it is true that we need to work to pay the bills, but not to
the point of misery. Working too long and too hard is one of
the complaints I hear with clients of reasons not to be happy.
Another common complaint is at the other end of the money
spectrum, and that is not having enough money to do the
things that are important.
There is no excuse for ignoring those treasures that are
important to us. If we had a very delicate plant that needed
regular water and sun in order to grow into a beautiful
fragranced flower, we would most likely do that for the
plant. That is unless we cared so little for it and let it die. But
most often than not, we would take the time to take care of
it. And that is how we treat something that isn't even our
most treasured.
One person I talked with told me that being fit and in good
health was an important value for him. When we talked
about how he was taking care of himself, it was clear that he
was not treating his fitness and health as if it was an
important value. He was not doing anything in his daily life,
besides thinking about it, to really have that as a real
situation.
Another unfortunate situation that I have seen in my work
over the years is when a person values their spouse as the
most important person in their life, but doesn't treat them in
any way as if they are. Finally after years of feeling lonely in
their marriage, the spouse decides to leave the marriage,
and the one who valued them so greatly, is completely
flabbergasted and caught completely unaware. The one that
leaves most likely has been telling their spouse for years, but
has not been heard because the one who valued them
thought that valuing them was enough. Not realizing that the
relationship needed a little sunshine and water to grow, or
maybe it needed a lot of sunshine and water, but it didn't get
that.
So when you come up with realizing and know what is the
most valuable treasure in your life, treat it that way. If your
life is feeling empty and meaningless, then perhaps reflecting
on what is really important can help you get back to the
reason for your life. When we take our life for granted, and
not work on the preciousness that is in it, then it can easily
slip into a space of purposeless. Purpose comes from living
life around what we value.
Most people who are living a purposeful and passionate life
are doing so because they are nurturing their treasure, the
things or people that they truly treasure. In nurturing those
treasures, those treasures usually become more of an
energy boost in our life, then something that takes our
energy away. I have seen and experienced the difference
when we put our focus back on to what is important in our
life. It is as if we have been plugged in to some unseen
energy circuit, and it feels good! So have fun loving up what
is important to you, and watch it blossom in your life.

Cultivating Whole Thinking

Originally posted on my website 10 Jan 08

Often times when I use the word intuition with others, they
either look at me with a blank stare as if they do not know
what I mean, or they imply that intuition is "out there" or that
someone else has it but not them.
According to Webster, Intuition is 'direct perception of truth,
fact, etc, independent of any reasoning processes; immediate
apprehension'
Einstein also tells us that his genius comes from his irrational
mind.
So whether we are a genius like Einstein or someone else,
we all have and use Intuition. Now why we are not so
confident with it is another question.
Our culture has been emphasizing the logical thinking over
the intuitive since the Holy Crusades during the medieval
times. Intuition before the Holy Crusades was considered a
natural sense as any of the others. It was not as separate.
But then it was considered an evil to think outside the church,
and then later to think outside of science.
When we go to school, we learn that it is important to know
things; we are told how to think. Logical thinking is active
thinking, whereas Intuitive thinking is receptive. We think we
can get by in life without receptive thinking, but not without
active thinking. So we emphasize cultivating really great
logical thinking, and ignoring things that don't make sense. It
is as is we have been exercising our left arm (logical), lifting
weights, using it completely, but not believing that the right
arm (intuitive) is of any use. So now we have a beautiful firm,
strong left arm where everyone can see it and appreciate it,
but since we and others do not value the right arm, it doesn't
matter if it lays there limp and of little use. We simply keep
strengthening the left more and more.
Every once in a while the right arm pops up with full strength,
and we either are amazed at it or discount it as insignificant.
This is what we do with our intuitive thinking.
We have become so accustomed as a society to look lopsided
that we are not even noticing that we are not thinking with
our whole self. We either see intuition as something flaky or
something that we do not have or even really need.
What I have seen over the years is that everyone has
intuitive stories, but because it wasn't a big bang, it went
hiding in our memory bank.
So the question is why is intuition important, and how can it
help us in our practical day-to-day life.
I believe Intuition is important because it helps us to become
clearer in not only who we are, but who others are as well.
Intuition can be used along with logic to come up with
solutions, it can be used to understand from many angles,
and it can even be used to tap into new ideas, hidden talents,
and a deeper self. Integrating intuition with logic can certainly
make life more enjoyable, more enriched, more directed, and
a great adventure. Our logical mind can only take us to
certain places of understanding and intuition can take us to
other places of understanding, together, life can feel more
whole.
There are many ways to exercise (cultivate) our intuition.
One way that I find helpful is when I am making a decision. I
first sit with and feel the various solutions. How does each
solution feel? I then think out the logical solutions to see
which seems the best. I then see if the two can come
together as a creative solution. Or if my intuitive feels
matches the logical choice, I just then go with that. If it
doesn't match, I then look for other solutions until the two sit
well together. We often think out logical solutions or just go
with the feelings without really putting the two together.
Each of the thinking processes really cannot show the whole
picture when it stands alone. They are both only showing us
one way to see it, which is why it is important to learn to think
through both processes.
Dreams are another way that I like to connect with
Guidance. When I want clarity on a situation, I ask very
clearly to be shown the answer or guidance in a dream. I also
affirm that I will remember the dream, and understand the
answer. When I wake up, I immediately write the dream
down before trying to understand it. That way the reasoning
mind cannot get in the way.
Some times I have asked for a sign to be shown on what to
do. But this can be difficult since it is your reasoning mind
trying to understand the answer.
The most important thing I believe in using Intuition is to ask
for guidance, and then practice doing receptive feeling
(thinking) to feel the answer. If you aren't clear with the
answer, then ask again until it does become clear.
If you have any questions about how to further develop your
Intuition, then please feel free to ask.

Fate Versus Free Will

Originally Written on my website
Sept 2007

One of the questions that have continued to come up for me is,
how much is our life destined by fate or how much free will do we
actually have to create the life we all truly want? This is
important to understand since so many come to me for an
Intuitive session hoping to hear their future. What I have learned
since doing this work is that no one can predict another's future
100% since we all have a certain amount of free will.

We also do have Karma and fate, and this is based on many
things, including past lives. We also have free will to decide
which direction to go in to in our life. The combination of these
two along with God's grace are all acting in our life.
With the combination of these acting in our life, it is important to
know our true self. Not the self we have easy access to, but our
deep inner beliefs and attitudes. These deep beliefs are the ones
that affect our destiny more than anything.

The great news is, with a surrendering of deep grief, anger, and
judgments; we can truly open our hearts more so that all of God's
grace can come through.
When we open our hearts more, we heal our karma. Karma and
unpleasant fate can be changed through love! That is the exciting
aspect of all of this.

What I have often seen is that we think we are being more loving
when really we are only "thinking" that we are more loving. It is
really important to "feel" more loving. How we can know that if
we are truly more loving is if we have seen that we have dropped
the "victim" thinking. When we accept our direction in life while
knowing that we deserve God's grace is when wonderful and
profound things really do come in.

Let's move forward together in truth and Light!

Dear Friends,
I am extremely grateful for everyone that I have worked with and
will work with in the future. Each session, each connection , opens
me up to greater levels of compassion and understanding in my life.
It has been a true gift for me to be in this profession all these years.
Thank You for being in my life!
I hope this website brings us to even a greater connection together.
One of the goals with this site is to address topics that are important
for you. If you have any questions or topics that you would like me
to write about, then please feel free to contact me.

There is so much going on in the world that it is easy to give up with
negativity and fear. Compassion, Love, and Intuition are the
greatest tools in keeping a peaceful and kind heart. We can support
one another in reminding each other through the power of love and
compassion to continue in our inner development. As Gandhi says, "
In the end, love will always win".
With Love and Blessings,
Janese